Top 10 Tips to Date French Women
French women are revered worldwide for their beauty, style, seductiveness, and a certain je ne sais quoi. But they can also famously play hard to get. Want to jump into the French world of dating but aren’t quite sure how? Here’s an insider’s guide with our top 10 tips to date French women.
1. Be yourself
This may sound like the most basic advice, but it really is important if you want to have any kind of healthy dating relationship. To put it bluntly: don’t pretend to be someone or something you’re not.
It’s important to be honest and be comfortable being yourself around your partner in any relationship, but this is especially true when it comes to dating French women. While the French may play on subtlety at times when it comes to romance, integrity and honesty are important cultural values here. And a French woman won’t hesitate to call you out on your behavior if she finds it unacceptable, and more than likely you won’t have another chance.
2. Give her meaningful compliments
One of the best tips for dating a French woman (or any woman, really) is to compliment her. Again, honesty comes into play here. Make sure your compliments are meaningful, personal, and sincere. You can tell her she’s beautiful, but she’s probably heard that a thousand times. Get creative, and compliment something other than her physical appearance.
For example, you can tell her how much you adore her personality, admire her quick wit, are inspired by her creativity, or how hearing her laugh makes you happy inside… Just make it personal and from the heart.
3. Don’t underestimate her
Seriously, you do not want to underestimate a French woman. Equality is really important in France, and this goes for dating too. The relationship should be balanced, not one partner being the constant leader and the other being the constant follower. Don’t make the mistake of underestimating her, or you’ll be old news and fast.
4. Flirt like it’s your full-time job
If the French have earned a reputation for being flirtatious, it’s because they do it so well. Most of the time it’s just harmless fun, but when you want to date a French woman, you’ll have to pull out all the stops. Flirt with her like it’s your full-time job, but in a tasteful and respectful way. If the feeling is mutual, she’ll respond with her own French flirtations – and may even teach you a thing or two about how it’s done.
5. Romantic gestures can go a long way
The French are famed for their romantic ways, and after living here for the better part of a decade, I can tell you there’s a reason for this. Romance is a part of the culture here, and if you want to date a French woman, romancing her is key.
I’m not talking about huge, public, over the top gestures either – that doesn’t really fly here. It can be something as simple as surprising her with her favorite flowers, cooking a meal she loves for your date night, or more involved like planning a day trip or weekend away.
6. Take the initiative – but not every time
French women get a reputation for being quite independent, but that doesn’t mean she won’t appreciate you taking the initiative sometimes. But as with any relationship, the key here is balance.
So this means it’s up to you to plan things, and other times let her take the lead. You planned the last date? It’s her turn to choose this time. She decided on the film you just watched together? You can suggest the next activity. Now I know this seems incredibly simple, but believe me: establishing this kind of balance is essential if you want to successfully date a French woman.
7. Dress to impress
One of the most important pieces of advice for dating French women is to dress to impress. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you need to be dripping in designer labels or even follow the latest trends. But France is a slightly more formal culture than what you may be used to when it comes to how people dress, and this is especially true in Paris.
If you have a date with a French woman, don’t make the mistake of showing up too casual for the occasion. Wear an outfit that makes you feel comfortable and that makes you look put together – show that you put an effort into your appearance. She will appreciate this, and looking sharp only boosts your confidence.
8. Mind your manners
The French culture is always evolving, but has managed to hold onto some of it’s more ‘old-fashioned’ values. One important tip for dating French women is to mind your manners. Show her respect and courtesy, just as one would have done in decades past. You can open doors for her, hold an umbrella for her when it’s raining, offer to help carry things, etc.
9. Take your time
Another top 10 tip for dating French women is don’t be afraid to take your time. Most serious dating relationships tend to develop over time in France. Couples usually meet through work, school, mutual friends, or are friends themselves before anything romantic occurs. And even then, the American ‘dating game’ doesn’t exist here. There’s no rush to define the relationship or ‘become exclusive’, but all this rather seems to be assumed and develops naturally.
10. Make it clear that it’s a date
Yes, this seems like a no-brainer, but dating situations can be more ambiguous in France than what you might be used to in your culture. That being said, it’s very culturally acceptable for a man and woman to go out to lunch, drinks, or dinner together, without it being a date or including any romantic undertones.
So last on my list of the top 10 tips to date French women would be to make sure she knows it’s a date, and not just sharing a friendly meal. Then, once you’ve made your intentions clear, it’s time to plan an unforgettable date with the French woman of your dreams.