First, let me say that this is an exaggeration. People change all the time. 

The problem is that very often they do not change the way you want them to.

Missing this point can lead to spending time with, even marrying, the wrong people. If your boyfriend is rude and it bothers you a lot, don’t assume that when you are together all the time you can get him to be more considerate. Decide now if this is a deal breaker. And if it is, ‘move on’. If it is not a deal breaker, then ‘ok’. You can bring it up, but don’t make his changing a requirement of this relationship being one you want. If you do, it is likely to eventually lead to frustration and resentment, on both sides,

AND…. Try to avoid people who are trying to change you. You can feel this as they are often giving you ‘gentle’ hints on how you can be better at something. These people will end up as mentioned above, “frustrated and resentful”. 

The good news about not expecting people to change is that you become more selective on who you spend your time with. And at the same time, you become more tolerant of other people. When you realize someone is unlikely to change the way you want them to, you don’t get as frustrated when they act in a way you wish they wouldn’t. You say to yourself, it is ‘ok’ as I have chosen this path and if they do not change, at least I have not expected them to.

Planning a trip to Paris ? Get ready !


These are Amazon’s best-selling travel products that you may need for coming to Paris.

Bookstore

  1. The best travel book : Rick Steves – Paris 2023 – Learn more here
  2. Fodor’s Paris 2024 – Learn more here

Travel Gear

  1. Venture Pal Lightweight Backpack – Learn more here
  2. Samsonite Winfield 2 28″ Luggage – Learn more here
  3. Swig Savvy’s Stainless Steel Insulated Water Bottle – Learn more here

Check Amazon’s best-seller list for the most popular travel accessories. We sometimes read this list just to find out what new travel products people are buying.